“Lend yourself to others, but give yourself to yourself.” ~ Michel de Montaigne
“How are you?”
I was meeting a friend whom I see not nearly as often as I’d like, so we had a lot to catch up on.
“The truth?” she asked.
So we talked. We talked about her sons and their individual learning needs. We talked about her extensive volunteering in her school district and her education advocacy, not just for her own children, but for strangers’ children. We talked about how she is her aging mother’s long-distance health care advocate, and about the binder of information she keeps about her mother’s medical history, illnesses, and prescriptions to have at the ready for phone calls with doctors or nursing home staff.
We also talked about the sometimes painful process of self-discovery that happens at midlife, how we are continually learning new things about ourselves, getting to know ourselves as if for the first time, and how that surprises us. She is unusually sensitive and gifted, and I was reminded of an article about gifted adults by Deirdre Lovecky, “Can You Hear the Flowers Sing?“